Hi! How can I help?
You know how it is...
Life's a journey... Sometimes it's tough. There are ups - and there are downs. And there are times in the downs when you need someone who can understand and help you through. That's perhaps what's got you reading this right now... So how might I be able to help?
It starts with listening.
You're in distress - pain even. You may know why, or you may not: you may just feel that something's not right and you're looking to do something about it.
Distress, and wanting change - that's where it begins. And it's in that place you need to be heard, understood and responded to.
I'm Klaus Heinrich
- and I've been working in Leicester and Leicestershire as an accredited counsellor/psychotherapist since 1986; accredited supervisor since 2001; life coach since 2007. I've lived in Kibworth since 2004. I've worked privately and in secondary, further and higher education. Great places for me to learn about diversity, differences in abilities, and anti-discriminatory practice.
I work with individuals on an open-ended basis or for an agreed time period, with the aim of enabling you to get your life in order in a way that's right for you (and good for other people too!).
I'm passionate about this work (see me above talking about that on Youtube). I'm passionate about agreeing outcomes for our work together and helping you really feel that you're getting what you need from counselling/therapy/life coaching.
I do my therapy/counselling/life coaching/supervision from home in Kibworth (LE8), 10 miles South East of Leicester and within easy reach (and on bus routes) from Leicester, Market Harborough, Oadby, Great Glen, Fleckney, Wigston and surrounding villages.
I've worked a lot with people experiencing
Some people find it helpful to see a list like this, and to recognise themselves having anxiety, or feeling depressed. We naturally want to avoid these unpleasant feelings, just as we instinctively flinch from a sting or a pinprick. Counselling or therapy gives us the chance to just stop and get curious about the feeling we'd rather avoid. What's this anxiety about..? What's triggered this 'depression'? What is it that stresses me so just now? Counselling/therapy is the opportunity to use these issues as signposts to a happier, healthier life. 'Ah - so that's what's making me so anxious. I can learn to handle this in another way. That's empowering! I can feel my self-esteem grow as I get more control over my life... Great!'
Rates and access
I charge £50 per session.
My practice is on the ground floor, but I don't have a ground floor loo, just in case you have mobility issues.
More about how I work
Unique people - Individual conversations
Because we're all different, when we're in trouble we need to find the help that suits us best. I've studied and practised different ways of being a counsellor and a life-coach through my career, and I integrate this experience in how I work now. And I go on learning..!
It starts with listening.
For many clients, being really heard and understood is all it takes. Because then you get to understanding yourself. You get to see yourself in a different light. You get to see what you can change, and how. You get to see what you maybe have to put up with, and how.
The right kinds of questions can help you along. For instance - If you got the solution you were after, what would you notice? What would be happening? What might you be doing already that could be part of the solution? What's the next smallest step that would tell you you're on the way?
Sometimes past events and old patterns get in the way of living freely now. So it can help to ask, 'Where did this start?' 'Back then, this pattern of responding worked; now it doesn't any more. What's to do to let it go?'
Sometimes that letting go can be helped by a technique, like EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique). This is safe, gentle, and has helped a lot of people. We might agree to try it. You could learn it from me as a self-help tool!
Sometimes a more mindful approach works best - learning to be OK with whatever you're experiencing, without trying to change it.
These various approaches (and others) are what I offer. I integrate them into my work with you. We agree the outcomes that are right for you. We try things out by agreement. We discuss what works best for you .
And I'm not able to help everybody. The best of us only help 7 out of 10 people who come to us. If I can't help you, we'll discuss other ways forward that you might try.
Special interest... we are all individuals in a bigger context
Counselling, therapy, and life coaching tend to see people as individuals, probably linked in with family, colleagues, friends. That 'social' environment has impacts, of course - greater or smaller - on us as individuals. Sometimes social media intensify that impact, and put us in a larger context. With or without social media, most of us live in a social and political context that's hard to ignore. We see or hear the news; some stories particularly affect us. 'Brexit' for instance came into my consulting room more than any other political event I can remember!
I'm interested in how we as individuals live in 'contextual' zones like this. How are we emotionally engaged? How do these public issues affect our thinking? How do they affect our relationships with eachother?
In particular, contextual issues can affect how anxious we feel. How, for instance, might my job be affected by the decision on Europe? Do I automatically think twice about a trip through London if there's been a terror threat in the news?
As social creatures, context enters the weave of our inner lives. Sometimes we need to address this in therapy, to get a bit more insight and detachment. Using a mindfulness notion, we may find it helpful to be able to watch our reactions without getting swept along by them. Or at least be able to 'surf' the waves of feeling and maintain a bit of balance.
Experienced counsellor/therapist, looking for supervision? Check out my Blogstore.
"Radical Acceptance 2"
Thanks to M--, who read my earlier piece on Radical Acceptance (see Blogstore), and got me onto Tara Brach's "Radical Acceptance" (2003). We can use the breath in mindful states to embrace those feelings/thoughts/experiences that we find so difficult, to hold them gently and compassionately in awareness. Accepting ourselves as we happen to be at that moment. For instance, you say something hurtful to someone you care about. It's off the cuff, in a moment of impatience or inattention. Ouch! You wince with them as the painful word goes in. You feel remorse, maybe tinged with a bit of "schadenfreude" - the shameful glee that someone momentarily anyway is hurting more than you are. A whole load of complex, conflicting feelings. Where is each one of them in your body? Where does that impatience sit most strongly just now? That shame? A grab round the heart? Throat tight?... Breathe into that part of you... Allow the breath to envelop that physical pain, to hold it in a gentle embrace. It's OK... you're only human after all... Let yourself be with the physical event, either right there and then or in quiet reflection afterwards... Just be with it, without intent to change... Maybe it gets to tell you something about your vulnerability, your need... It's just your bit of the human condition playing itself out... We all suffer like this... Gently accepting ourselves doesn't stop the suffering, but it eases it considerably. We can learn to hold more and more of our experience in an expansive awareness, a quiet, less reactive state of being. There, we're better able to connect with each other... We're not alone in our pain... We're really all in this together... Working it out, giving it our best shot as we go...