Hi! How can I help?
So... You know how it is...
Life can be challenging sometimes. Very. Painfully, even. You can feel so flummoxed that there must be someone who can help you sort it out, find a way forward. So what can I do for you?
It starts with listening. With being heard and understood. Deeply. Then we can begin to see clearly what the options are - choices, challenges, changes...
Maybe you're in distress. You may know why, or you may not: you may just feel that something's not right and you're looking to do something about it. Or maybe it's clearer than that: something, some relationship, some past event, that's really troubling you - how to handle that better? How to move on?
Distress, dis-ease, and wanting change - that's where it begins. And it's in that place you need to be heard, understood and responded to.
What's going to help you most?
That's what we decide together when we can see the situation clearly.
... Life Coaching?
To take a goal-orientated approach to what you want to fix? ... There are also great ways I can teach you to be your own life coach!
Take a look at my page on Life Coaching for more about that.
Here's a powerful way I can teach you how to take a different stance to the difficult stuff, thus changing it and your whole way of being in the world.
Emotional Freedom Technique?
Many people have found this a powerful and efficient way of sorting out emotional difficulties and blocks, as the box below demonstrates -
Often, we'll find a variety of ways of working together, carefully discussed and agreed upon for max impact. See below for more about how I work.
I'm Klaus Heinrich
- and I've been working in Leicester and Leicestershire as an accredited counsellor/psychotherapist since 1986; accredited supervisor since 2001; life coach since 2007. I've lived in Kibworth since 2004. I've worked privately and in secondary, further and higher education. Great places for me to learn about diversity, differences in abilities, and anti-discriminatory practice.
I work with individuals on an open-ended basis or for an agreed time period, with the aim of enabling you to get your life in order in a way that's right for you (and good for other people too!).
I'm passionate about this work (see me above talking about that on Youtube) - still, after all these years! Helping someone like yourself get your life right for you is an enormous privilege.
I do my therapy/counselling/life coaching/supervision from home in Kibworth (LE8), 10 miles South East of Leicester and within easy reach (and on bus routes) from Leicester, Market Harborough, Oadby, Great Glen, Fleckney, Wigston and surrounding villages.
I've worked a lot with people experiencing
Some people find it helpful to see a list like this, and to recognise themselves having anxiety, or feeling depressed. We naturally want to avoid these unpleasant feelings, just as we instinctively flinch from a sting or a pinprick. Counselling or therapy gives us the chance to just stop and get curious about the feeling we'd rather avoid. What's this anxiety about..? What's triggered this 'depression'? What is it that stresses me so just now? Counselling/therapy is the opportunity to use these issues as signposts to a happier, healthier life. 'Ah - so that's what's making me so anxious. I can learn to handle this in another way. That's empowering! I can feel my self-esteem grow as I get more control over my life... Great!'
Rates and access
I charge £50 per session.
My practice is on the ground floor, but I don't have a ground floor loo, just in case you have mobility issues.
Experienced counsellor/therapist, looking for supervision? Check out my supervision page.
More about how I work
Unique people - Individual conversations
Because we're all different, when we're in trouble we need to find the help that suits us best. I've studied and practised different ways of being a counsellor and a life-coach through my career, and I integrate this experience in how I work now. And I go on learning..!
It starts with listening.
For many clients, being really heard and understood can be, believe it or not, a colossally transformative starting point. Because then you get to understanding yourself. You get to see yourself in a different light. You get to see what you can change, and how. You get to see what you maybe have to put up with, and how.
The right kinds of questions can help you along. For instance - "If you got the solution you were after, what would you notice? What would be happening?" "What might you be doing already that could be part of the solution?" "What's the next smallest step that would tell you you're on the way?"
Sometimes past events and old patterns get in the way of living freely now. So it can help to ask, "Where did this start?" "Back then, this pattern of responding worked; now it doesn't any more. What's to do to let it go?"
Sometimes that letting go can be helped by a technique, like EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique). This is safe, gentle, and has helped a lot of people. We might agree to try it. You could learn it from me as a self-help tool!
Sometimes a more mindful approach works best - learning to really accept your experience as the starting point for transformation.
These various approaches (and others) are what I offer. I integrate them into my work with you. We agree the outcomes that are right for you. We try things out by agreement. We discuss what works best for you .
And I'm not able to help everybody. The best of us only help 7 out of 10 people who come to us. If I can't help you, we'll discuss other ways forward that you might try.
The Brain as a "Don't Get Killed!" Device
So why is it that negative thoughts can be so troublesome and hard to get rid of? Why do we look at the news and get despairing/anxious? Why is it that we can be so anxious about how we are with other people, how we fit in, whether we're accepted, whether we're good enough? Well - take a look at it this way:
From an evolutionary perspective, what matters most? Survival, right? And in that imperative to stay alive, our strongest suit is our brain. Think hunter-gathering on the savannahs, surviving against sabre-toothed tigers etc. Can't out-run 'em - might outwit 'em. So the mind - the bit of our brain activity we have some awareness of - is a radar, constantly the lookout for danger. Back then - and now. At that level of functioning, not much has changed in hundreds and thousands of years.
And part of our survival is to stay in the group. We're social creatures - we're not built to go it alone. So fitting in, being liked/accepted, being somewhere in the pecking order, is part of survival.
This perspective helps us to see that our anxieties have a useful function - or did have. So when we want to live freer of them and the way they can impede our happiness, we need to start by accepting them (and that part of ourselves). Being kind and loving of those parts of ourselves, understanding where we're coming from, gives us a firmer base from which to move to better states. We won't change ourselves to being calmer, happier etc by bullying ourselves out of our anxieties. Therapy offers a gentle, holistic way forward.
Special interest... we are all individuals in a bigger context
Counselling, therapy, and life coaching tend to see people as individuals, probably linked in with family, colleagues, friends. That 'social' environment has impacts, of course - greater or smaller - on us as individuals. Sometimes social media intensify that impact, and put us in a larger context. With or without social media, most of us live in a social and political context that's hard to ignore. We see or hear the news; some stories particularly affect us. 'Brexit' for instance came into my consulting room more than any other political event I can remember!
I'm interested in how we as individuals live in 'contextual' zones like this. How are we emotionally engaged? How do these public issues affect our thinking? How do they affect our relationships with eachother?
In particular, contextual issues can affect how anxious we feel. How, for instance, might my job be affected by the decision on Europe? Do I automatically think twice about a trip through London if there's been a terror threat in the news?
As social creatures, context enters the weave of our inner lives. Sometimes we need to address this in therapy, to get a bit more insight and detachment. Using a mindfulness notion, we may find it helpful to be able to watch our reactions without getting swept along by them. Or at least be able to 'surf' the waves of feeling and maintain a bit of balance.