Hi! How can I help?
So... You know how it is...
Life can be challenging sometimes. Very. Painfully, even. You can feel so flummoxed that there must be someone who can help you sort it out, find a way forward. So what can I do for you?
It starts with listening. With being heard and understood. Deeply. Then we can begin to see clearly what the options are - choices, challenges, changes...
Maybe you're in distress. You may know why, or you may not: you may just feel that something's not right and you're looking to do something about it. Or maybe it's clearer than that: something, some relationship, some past event, that's really troubling you - how to handle that better? How to move on?
Distress, dis-ease, and wanting change - that's where it begins. And it's in that place you need to be heard, understood and responded to.
What's going to help you most?
That's what we decide together when we can see the situation clearly.
... Life Coaching?
To take a goal-orientated approach to what you want to fix? ... There are also great ways I can teach you to be your own life coach!
Take a look below and at my page on Life Coaching for more about that.
Here's a powerful way I can teach you how to take a different stance to the difficult stuff, thus changing it and your whole way of being in the world. Take a look at my Blog for more.
Emotional Freedom Technique?
Many people have found this a powerful and efficient way of sorting out emotional difficulties and blocks, as the box below demonstrates -
Often, we'll find a variety of ways of working together, carefully discussed and agreed upon for max impact. See below for more about how I work.
I'm Klaus Heinrich
- and I've been working in Leicester and Leicestershire as an accredited counsellor/psychotherapist since 1986; accredited supervisor since 2001; life coach since 2007. I've lived in Kibworth since 2004. I've worked privately and in secondary, further and higher education. Great places for me to learn about diversity, differences in abilities, and anti-discriminatory practice.
I work with individuals on an open-ended basis or for an agreed time period, with the aim of enabling you to get your life in order in a way that's right for you (and good for other people too!).
I'm passionate about this work (see me above talking about that on Youtube) - still, after all these years! Helping someone like yourself get your life right for you is an enormous privilege.
I do my therapy/counselling/life coaching/supervision from home in Kibworth (LE8), 10 miles South East of Leicester and within easy reach (and on bus routes) from Leicester, Market Harborough, Oadby, Great Glen, Fleckney, Wigston and surrounding villages.
I've worked a lot with people experiencing
Some people find it helpful to see a list like this, and to recognise themselves having anxiety, or feeling depressed. We naturally want to avoid these unpleasant feelings, just as we instinctively flinch from a sting or a pinprick. Counselling or therapy gives us the chance to just stop and get curious about the feeling we'd rather avoid. What's this anxiety about..? What's triggered this 'depression'? What is it that stresses me so just now? Counselling/therapy is the opportunity to use these issues as signposts to a happier, healthier life. 'Ah - so that's what's making me so anxious. I can learn to handle this in another way. That's empowering! I can feel my self-esteem grow as I get more control over my life... Great!'
Rates and access
I charge £50 per session.
My practice is on the ground floor, but I don't have a ground floor loo, just in case you have mobility issues.
... And then there's Christmas...
Honestly, most people I speak to - at least in the dominant UK culture - find Christmas...er... challenging. Some don't: I think they manage to slip through the whole episode sort of unconsciously, just going with it without thought. If you're reading this, I reckon you're not like that!
So why do we have such a struggle with the "festive period"?
Much is surely to do with the overconsumption we're exhorted to, and maybe fall into, despite ourselves. There's something nauseating about it, only exacerbated by the reminders of how different, and awful it is for so many less fortunate than ourselves, the homeless, etc. (Good John Bird article on this in the current Big Issue.)
I think Christmas also throws up a lot of powerful unconscious processes and fantasies. Some infantile realm inside us gets triggered to come up with idealisations of how it ought to be - glorious, happy, conflict-free, etc. The reality is disappointing by comparison, sometimes crashingly so, eg when old relationship wounds bleed anew. I think sometimes the painful stuff gets triggered at Christmas exactly because we want a day in the year when it can all go away!
I wonder also whether there's something deep under all this about being at the low point in the year - mid-winter, solstice. A feast is surely a good thing to help us through. Both western pre-Christian cultures, and Christianity itself of course, celebrate the coming of the Light (sun or Son) at this time. Symbolically, (and thinking in Jungian terms), that's a huge deal. Maybe part of the catharsis of the feast includes an exegesis of the negative..?
How to manage Christmas? Maybe a bit of kindness, empathy for self and others, goes a long way - an understanding of the complex feelings stirred by this time in so many of us. A bit of containing the difficult stuff, knowing that "This too will pass". And a reaching out, kindly and empathically, to those around us, who may be feeling it worse than we are - or who may surprise us with kindness and joy coming right back, and reminding us we're in it together, and not so different from each other, nor as alone as we imagined!
Need more? Contact me for an appointment.
Get a life! Get a Life Coach!
What makes for a satisfying, fulfilled life? We might agree on a list, that might include:
- a sense of security in the world, a place to live without fear
- having intimate connection with others
- a sense of purpose, of going somewhere in life
- a sense of meaningful connection to the world at large
- a sense of being your own person, with control over your life
- having status, or being appreciated, in various situations in life
- being carefully attended to and understood, and being able to give that out too
- having enough private time and space
- feeling competent, and able to achieve in life
It's easy to see that any lack in any of these areas will create distress or dis-ease.
How about you? Would a life coaching session help you get deeper satisfaction, or fix some lack?
Experienced counsellor/therapist, looking for supervision? Check out my supervision page.
More about how I work
Unique people - Individual conversations
Because we're all different, when we're in trouble we need to find the help that suits us best. I've studied and practised different ways of being a counsellor and a life-coach through my career, and I integrate this experience in how I work now. And I go on learning..!
It starts with listening.
For many clients, being really heard and understood can be, believe it or not, a colossally transformative starting point. Because then you get to understanding yourself. You get to see yourself in a different light. You get to see what you can change, and how. You get to see what you maybe have to put up with, and how.
The right kinds of questions can help you along. For instance - "If you got the solution you were after, what would you notice? What would be happening?" "What might you be doing already that could be part of the solution?" "What's the next smallest step that would tell you you're on the way?"
Sometimes past events and old patterns get in the way of living freely now. So it can help to ask, "Where did this start?" "Back then, this pattern of responding worked; now it doesn't any more. What's to do to let it go?"
Sometimes that letting go can be helped by a technique, like EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique). This is safe, gentle, and has helped a lot of people. We might agree to try it. You could learn it from me as a self-help tool!
Sometimes a more mindful approach works best - learning to really accept your experience as the starting point for transformation.
And then there's me as trained life coach. What does that mean? Chiefly, that we can develop a stance together of looking at your life from the outside and going somewhere - towards more fulfilment, better relationships - whatever you choose! I can help you get there, and, moreover, I can help you become your own life coach! How would that be?! More on this on my Life Coaching page.
These various approaches (and others) are what I offer. I integrate them into my work with you. We agree the outcomes that are right for you. We try things out by agreement. We discuss what works best for you .
And I'm not able to help everybody. The best of us only help 7 out of 10 people who come to us. If I can't help you, we'll discuss other ways forward that you might try.
Special interest... we are all individuals in a bigger context
Counselling, therapy, and life coaching tend to see people as individuals, probably linked in with family, colleagues, friends. That 'social' environment has impacts, of course - greater or smaller - on us as individuals. Sometimes social media intensify that impact, and put us in a larger context. With or without social media, most of us live in a social and political context that's hard to ignore. We see or hear the news; some stories particularly affect us. 'Brexit' for instance has come into my consulting room more than any other political event I can remember!
I'm interested in how we as individuals live in 'contextual' zones like this. How are we emotionally engaged? How do these public issues affect our thinking? How do they affect our relationships with eachother?
In particular, contextual issues can affect how anxious we feel. How, for instance, might my job be affected by the decision on Europe? Do I automatically think twice about a trip through London if there's been a terror threat in the news?
As social creatures, context enters the weave of our inner lives. Sometimes we need to address this in therapy, to get a bit more insight and detachment. Using a mindfulness notion, we may find it helpful to be able to watch our reactions without getting swept along by them. Or at least be able to 'surf' the waves of feeling and maintain a bit of balance.